As ‘resolution-January’ just ended, I wonder, where do you look for hacks to help you make changes? Blogs? Books? Magazines? Wherever we look, there seem to be plenty of ‘short cut’ advice out there, - often in list format. My own experience is that whenever I pick up a magazine, it always (literally always) contains pages and pages of lists: ’10 steps to happiness’, ‘5 tricks to getting fit’, ‘7 ways to pivot your career’ or ‘13 Longevity hacks’ etc. Although helpful, these

I am wondering about the Christmas spirit …….. if some may find it particularly hard to conjure that up right now? Or maybe it’s a good distraction?  We certainly need a reason to feel good, that’s for sure! But then I also wonder why it’s just at this time of year?   I used to live on Kauai in Hawaii, and there I learned about the Aloha spirit. It’s similar in that it’s also about love, and being welcoming, open and kind to others. I recall one Kahuna (essentially an Hawaiia

I put it down to all those years living on the island of Kauai – a surfer’s paradise. Every other person I knew was a surfer and most would happily expound on any one of the principles of riding the waves, given half a chance. One of those principles that stuck in my memory is ‘pearling’, and I do love to use it as a metaphor. It’s a great metaphor for handling unpleasant change , which seems to be up for so many of us.   Pearling occurs when you’re on a surfboard catching a

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