You're leading at work. You're leading at home.
Why does it feel like you're not leading your own life?
Surely if this is what 'having it all' looks like, it shouldn't feel like losing yourself (and your sanity!) just trying to hold it all together...
Let’s name what’s really happening…
The world simply isn’t designed for...
Leaders who mother…
You’re still expected to lead. You’re managing teams, meeting deadlines, navigating office politics. But, since becoming a parent, you also feel yourself being quietly sidelined.
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Still making the same money—but not the same impact.
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Back in the office—but somehow not back in the room.
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Still getting the job done—but something feels off.
What used to fit so well, doesn’t quite fit now.
So while you used to be on fire with purpose and drive.
Now, you’re procrastinating. Numb. Bored.
They call it ‘mummy brain’, but that only explains it for so long…
Something bigger has shifted in you, and it’s not just the kids.
…or mothers who lead
You came to motherhood after building something you were proud of. And you knew having kids would change so many things, but you didn’t expect it to change you.
Because, somehow, on top of holding it together at work…
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You’re organising childcare, groceries, and school runs.
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You’re making schedules, routines, and enforcing rules.
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You’re the one who knows where everything is, who needs what, and what’s happening next.
Even with a supportive partner, it’s all still you.
Nobody is built for this level of multitasking. So ‘holding it together’ means something has to give—and that something is you.
The truth?
It isn’t just stress.
This is identity erosion.
What does that look like for women like you?
You grieve for who you used to be…
and feel lost in who you are now
“I’m constantly switching between work and home, but I’m never present in either. I’m always somewhere else—guilty at work, guilty at home. Guilty no matter what.”
“Before I had kids, I knew who I was. Now it’s like I’m supposed to disappear into motherhood. But I don’t want to be just a mother. I want to be me.”
“Work used to light me up. But now I can’t seem to find that spark. It all feels… flat. Like I’m just going through the motions.”
“I spend so much time feeling resentful
that my partner isn’t doing more… but, honestly, I don’t know what I’d do with myself even if I did have time off.”
“I’m not the parent I thought I’d be. I’m impatient, always distracted. I feel like I’m managing my kids, not enjoying them.”
“I promised myself I’d parent differently, but here I am, sounding like my mother. I feel ashamed in the moment, but I also can’t seem to stop it from happening.”
“Most days are just something to get through. I’m crossing things off a to-do list from 6am to bedtime, but it doesn’t feel like I’m actually living any of my life.”
“I keep telling myself, ‘Once the kids are older… then I’ll feel better.” But I know I’m kidding myself. And I don’t want to spend my life waiting to feel okay.”
“From the outside, it looks like I’ve got it all figured out. But behind the scenes, I feel like I’m failing at everything. I know it’s there, even if no one else can see it.”
“Some days I still want more—but then I feel guilty for wanting it. Other days, I can’t seem to find any motivation at all. I just don’t know what I want anymore.”
You’ve already tried to fix it, but...
Nothing seems to actually help!
You’ve read the books. Reworked the routines.
And you’ve kept pushing—because that’s what you do.
But nothing really changes.
You can't escape into work...
You can’t even disappear into your ‘zone’ like you used to. You’re unfocused and unproductive, and you know the chaos is still waiting for you at home.
You can't organise the chaos...
You’ve tried routines, planners, apps, systems. And for a minute, it works. But eventually, you’re back where you started—exhausted and overwhelmed.
You can't find the right advice...
You’ve followed the experts. Gone to therapy. Read the books. But the more tips you get, the more you second-guess and still feel like you’re doing it wrong.
The good news is…
It is possible to feel different
But only when you accept you can’t 'logic your way through' this one!
Yes, you’ve spent your life solving problems and pushing through barriers. Yes, you’ve been rewarded for your intelligence, your drive, your ability to think your way through any challenge. But this time it’s different…
Because parenting isn’t a thought experiment.
It’s a whole-body experience.
That’s why you’re stuck and why nothing seems to help.
That’s why ‘holding it together’ has felt like splitting yourself at the seams.
You’ve spent so long in your head, you’ve forgotten how to be.
So how does real change happen?
It starts with learning to tune in to yourself
Because underneath all the coping and pushing and overthinking…
You do know what you need. You just don’t know how to get yourself there.
Because what you really want is…
Reactivity → Patience
What if you could find that space between the trigger and your response? You know it should be there, but what if you were actually able to pause, breathe, and respond thoughtfully rather than reactively?
Distraction → Presence
What if you could just “be” wherever you are? Tuned in to your child when you’re at home, focused on work when you’re at work. No more guilt about where you’re not, just enjoying whatever moment you’re in.
Correction → Connection
What if those glimpses of connection weren’t just fleeting moments between instructions and commands? What if you could enjoy your kids’ company, guide their behaviour, and truly connect with them?
Tension → Ease
What if every day had a baseline of ease and flow, rather than your usual ‘white-knuckle energy’? What if you could feel calm, even in the midst of chaos? Centred, even in the midst of conflict?
Chaos → Balance
What if work and home didn’ t feel like a tug-of-war? What if you could show up fully in both, each ‘mode’ complementing the other rather than competing—one as your breath in, the other your breath out?
Invisibility → Identity
What if you could be a mother and feel like yourself? If you could show up as the person you are, not just the roles you play. What if you could reclaim the ‘you’ that’s been pushed aside since becoming a parent?
Regret → Enjoyment
What if you could look back on this chapter—at home and work—and feel proud of how you showed up? Enjoying it rather than enduring it. Feeling good about the person you were in every domain of your life…
Does any of that sound ‘too good to be true’?
Well, that means you’re in exactly the right place…
Introducing…
The Tuned-In Way
The Tuned-In Way is a 12-week program for high-achieving women who are constantly stressed trying to balance the demands of work, home, and everything in between—and losing themselves in the process. This is a proven, evidence-based method for moving out of overwhelm, guilt, and disconnection, and into presence, balance, and confidence in every area of your life.
This isn’t just about parenting…
This is the program that finally brings your back to yourself.
Secure in your identity. Confident in your choices. Present in your own life.
A program created by two women who've lived both sides of the story...
One hit breaking point trying to keep it all together.
The other stepped back—and still felt the strain.
Jennifer Day
Executive Coach, counsellor, author, mother
30+ years in emotional intelligence + stress regulation
Jennifer spent more than 15 years in the performing arts as a director, choreographer, producer, and dance teacher, founding and directing two companies and three schools—all while raising a daughter and trying to hold her marriage together.
Until it all fell apart.
After what she calls an "emotional explosion," she left it all behind and returned to her roots—literally and emotionally. What followed were years of deep study in mindfulness, neuroscience, and psychology. Not to become an expert, but to understand how she'd lost herself, and how to come home.
When she found the way, she knew she needed to share it.
She’s since spent decades working with parents, children, and leaders across the UK and US—teaching people how to regulate stress, build emotional resilience, and show up with presence in every part of their lives.
Melissa Rivera
Researcher, professor, coach, mother
Doctorate in developmental psychology from Harvard
When her kids were small, Melissa turned down a work trip that would have felt essential before—and realised in that moment that her priorities had changed. She soon stepped back from her established career and shifted to project work, so she could focus on being the present mother she wanted to be.
But that choice came with trade-offs.
There were days of nursing a baby on conference calls and taking a laptop to the playground. She took jobs she didn't love to support the people she did—and her emotional responses became disproportionate to what was happening around her.
In that tension, she met Jennifer and a new journey began.
What began as a personal shift soon became a professional one, informing every part of her work with clients. Now, Melissa helps other women reconnect with themselves and lead with presence—at work, home, and within.
Together, they combined their lived experience and decades of professional expertise to create 'The Tuned-In Way'.
Going far beyond parenting strategies and leadership tips, this program will help you tap into—and trust—your own inner counsellor, parenting expert, and leader.
Here’s how…
Module 1
Core Values: The Root of It All
In this module, you'll learn how core values shape every decision you make, and how to identify and live by the values that matter most to you.
We'll filter out generic aspirational values you've been taught to want, and the societal values you've been conditioned to chase. Instead, you'll find the values that truly matter to you—the ones that underpin your sense of self and drive your strongest emotions. Because if you're not living by your values, overwhelm will keep showing up (sometimes in unexpected ways!).
We'll cover...
How society sets women up to chase the wrong values
and fail to live by them (no wonder we always feel guilty!)
Why your coping mechanisms (like scrolling, venting, or a glass of wine!) bring relief but never resolution
The vicious cycle of stress that comes from living out of alignment with your values, and how it affects your health
Why the things that irritate or enrage you aren’t just pet peeves, but a window into your deepest non-negotiables
Why your core values don’t need to match between work and home—and how to honour both sets without tension
How to use core values as a decision-making framework rather than abstract ideals you struggle to live up to
The lifelong impact your values have on your children, and how to model them in a way that’s authentic and impactful
What to do when you slip back into old patterns (and why it’s inevitable from time to time—not a sign of failure!)
Plus so much more!
"I used to overreact to all these things I thought should matter, but I never stopped to think about what actually matters. I had so many ‘values’ that weren’t even mine…
Now I’m letting go of things that used to drive me crazy."
Module 2
The Body: Let's Get Physical
In this module, you'll learn how emotions impact the body and your behaviour—to a much greater degree than you realise (and what to do about it!)
You'll learn about the physiology of emotions and how they're not just 'in your head', but showing up in your body. You'll learn practical strategies for tuning in to your body's signals, releasing tension, and managing your emotions in a way that feels sustainable. No more gritting your teeth and pushing through when stress hits! This is about learning to regulate in real-time.
We'll cover...
Why positive thinking doesn’t work (the real reason your overwhelm resurfaces even if you try to “stay positive”)
How to tell if your body is holding onto unprocessed emotion and the exact places it hides in your muscles, posture, and even digestion (yes, it’s that physical!)
The hidden ways low-grade stress affects mood, focus, and patience—even if you're not “consciously” stressed
Why women process stress differently than men and why the strategies that work for your partner might not for you
How to recognise when “over-care” is hurting you and how to pull back before it causes burnout or resentment
The reason you feel guilty for being angry and why society teaches women to suppress the most freeing emotion
A simple technique to interrupt stress before it takes over, so you stop reacting in ways you regret at home and work
How to use micro-moments throughout your day to check in with your body (without feeling like you’re adding yet another thing to your to-do list)
A powerful but playful way to teach kids how to process emotions instead of suppressing them—so they don’ t carry the same stress patterns into adulthood that you did
Plus so much more!
"I always thought I just had a short fuse, so this module hit me harder than I expected. I was carrying this backlog of unprocessed everything in my body without realising.
I feel like my body just exhaled for the first time in years."
Module 3
The Brain: An Over-Controlling Machine
In this module, you'll learn about the role of the brain and how certain systems can run your life without you realising—but only if you let them!
While most of the systems in your brain are automatic, they're not unchangeable. You'll learn how to recognize when your brain is running the show, and how to step in and take back control. You'll learn how to manage your stress-producing emotions, quiet your threat system, and open up your pre-frontal cortex for more thoughtful, intentional responses at home and at work.
We'll cover...
Why it matters that your brain is a machine you can control—not a mysterious force that dictates behaviour
How your childhood experiences shape the way your brain responds to stress—but why you are NOT stuck with those patterns forever (yes, they’re changeable!)
The one survival system in your brain that’s responsible for stress and anger—and how to notice when it’s activated
The neurological reason you’re always chasing the next “thing”, and how to break free from that cycle without sacrificing your goals or your ambition
How to rebalance your reward system (AKA ‘dopamine recovery’) so you can feel content with what you have
3 simple exercises that tell your brain you’re safe, whether you’re in a high-pressure situation at work or at home
How to build positive neural pathways that prevent negative thought loops and make “good days” your default
Plus so much more!
"I was definitely guilty of thinking we’re stuck with
however our brains work and we just have to deal with it.
But just because it’s powerful doesn’t mean it’s in charge.
Turns out, I don’t need to feel like a passenger in my own life."
Module 4
The Heart (It's Not Just a Pump!)
In this module, you'll learn about the science of the heart and how it interacts with your brain and body to either amplify or calm your emotions.
You'll learn about heart rate variability and how it's a direct indicator of your emotional state, as well as a powerful tool for shifting that state from chaos to harmony. You'll learn how to engage your 'heart intelligence' in a matter of minutes to bring your brain and body into alignment, so you can show up as the parent you want to be.
We'll cover...
Why your heart is more than a pump—how it actively shapes your emotions, stress levels, and decision-making
The most powerful signal that tells your brain if you’re in a state of stress or clarity (yes, it comes from your heart!)
Why taking a deep breath in first when you’re anxious is a myth—and the simple breathing pattern that actually calms your nervous system in a matter of seconds
Why naming your emotions is the secret to regaining control (and how to get better at recognizing and expressing them if you’ve made a habit of squashing them!)
A 4-step process that lets you shift your emotional state on demand as soon as your heart starts signalling stress
A simple nighttime journaling habit to help you integrate insights, regulate emotions, and break out of stress loops.
How to recognise high vs. low emotional intelligence in yourself and others, in more subtle ways than you'd expect
The 5 levels of emotional intelligence and how to develop each one in yourself and your children (any age can learn)
Why teaching emotional intelligence to your kids offers a lifelong advantage and how to model it in your parenting
Plus so much more!
"My kids have noticed a difference. I’ve heard, ‘Mummy’s calmer now,’ and even ‘Mummy listens better now!’ I didn’t expect them to notice so quickly, but I guess that’s the point, isn’t it?
They’ve felt my stress all along. Of course they feel my calm."
Module 5
Your Influence: The Ripple Effect
In this module, you'll learn how your internal state affects the behavior of those around you—and how to use that influence more intentionally.
You'll learn about the science of entrainment and the ways you're constantly influencing (and being influenced by) the people around you. You'll learn how to align what you say, do and feel so your influence is intentional, rather than reactive. By mastering state shifting, you'll gain the ability to regulate your emotions in real-time, helping you create balance in every area of your life.
We'll cover...
How “entrainment” works and what makes it the most important factor in your ability to influence others
Why emotions are contagious and cause people to “sync up” with your internal state—whether you like it or not!
The real reason your words don’t land and how incongruence between what you say and how you feel causes disconnection
The key to being someone others naturally trust and listen to (and why it has nothing to do with what you say)
How to stop passing down stress to your children and instead model regulation that helps them feel secure
Why you can’t fake calm and how to notice the first physical signs you’re out of sync with your internal state
The quickest way to reset your nervous system and why simply lengthening your exhale can be transformative
How to use “state shifting” as a daily practice, so staying regulated becomes habitual even under pressure
Plus so much more!
"Everything’s different in the house now. I can see all these moments where my whole ‘hanging by a thread’ vibe would have caused tension before, but now it’s all just… easier.
I honestly didn’t think I could be this mother—thank you."
And that’s not all…
Join a supportive community of women learning to tune back in
For 12 weeks, you’ll have weekly live group sessions with
other women who are working through the program.
Share your progress
Talk about your recent wins or challenges in a safe, supportive space
Get personalised support
Hear from Jennifer and Melissa with feedback on your progress
Stay motivated & on track
Keep yourself accountable every week as you make small but meaningful shifts in your leadership and your parenting
Practice with the group
Join in guided exercises and practices to ground yourself in the new habits you’re building, and create a calm space for self-reflection
This is where the work starts to stick...
Because you’re not doing it alone!
Getting started
Ready to finally feel like a
leader in your own life again?
Frequently asked questions
Here’s what your fellow overwhelmed parents asked before finally saying "yes" to real, lasting change in their lives...
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I'm not sure I need this.Many parents today feel inundated with information and expert advice. If you have felt or feel overwhelmed by too much information and advice, Tuned-In Parenting could be what you want, - a very practical and easy to apply course that does NOT give advice but rather shows you how to connect with your own innate understanding and insights, so you can parent your unique child according to their unique needs.
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I’m not sure this is a priority.If you are reading this, you have probably experienced feeling anxious or insecure or even stressed about your child and /or your parenting. Your little one will grow up quickly, before you know it your child is a young adult! This program has been designed to help you avoid regret and proactively bring as much wisdom and joy as possible to your parenting journey.
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I’m not sure I believe in you.I have been working with parents and children for my entire adult life, and I am now a grandmother. More than two decades ago, I spent 9 years studying and researching various non-traditional approaches to managing stress and emotions, having already studied pedagogy and child development. Since then, I’ve taught thousands of parents and worked with a multitude of children, schools and teachers from dozens of cultures on both sides of the Atlantic. This wide array of experiences inform my approach as much as my own experience being a mother and grandmother. I have written 6 books for parents, (my first one published in 1994 is still selling and in ten languages). All are practical, as is all my work (hence the name of the methodology Tuned-In Parenting is based on: Applied Emotional Mastery – the operative word being ‘applied’).
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I’m not sure I believe in the product.Tuned-In Parenting is the result of more than 30 years of active work (teaching, coaching, counselling) with parents, children and families, and a resulting recognition that parents need practical help to BE the best they can be - rather than advice (often contradictory) on what to DO to control their children. The practical tools and information in the course are also importantly all supported by the latest neuroscience and everything is thoroughly research-based. Tuned-In Parenting is illustrated by my own daughter, artist and designer (and mother of two) Tammy Day, who has created whimsical visuals and sketches that are both child friendly and also reflect the child-centred daily experience of most parents taking this course.
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I don’t want to spend that much.The course is designed as a lifetime investment - to be a lifelong support, with tools and information you can come back to time and again, applicable to parenting at all ages and stages. I have had hundreds of parents tell me it’s the most valuable investment they’ve ever made! To quote a couple of participants: “The best money I’ve ever spent!”, Zoe, London, UK “This is an investment in yourself and your family.”, Delia, Hawaii, USA All modules come as videos as well as e-books, with additional resources including the bonus e-book ‘Grow, Grow, Blossom!’ An e-book with detailed information about growing children’s needs during each year and age and stage from 0 to 20 – (Note: although there is some differentiation between the needs of boys and girls in this book, it is based on research that has established the basic differing development needs, physically, mentally, and emotionally, that occur as a result of hormonal development. Should this not apply to your child, the information will nevertheless be valuable - and it is for guidance only).
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I’m not sure I have time.Parents have the least amount of time of anyone I know! Yet, we still need time to find help and support (maybe also more than most!). With that in mind. Tuned-In Parenting is designed to be short, quick, and with simple practical tips and tools to easily apply. Each video is between 7 and 20 minutes long, and is visually designed to also engage or at least distract little ones if you for some reason need to have them on your lap or nearby. The tools to apply in between videos are also brief and easily integrated into daily life….. and you’ll notice a difference very quickly.
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How long do I have access to the course?This is a lifetime access course – so until and including when you become a grandparent!
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What if I’m unhappy with the course?If within 30 days you have gone through the course and do not feel closer to your goal, we offer a full refund!
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Is this only for parents facing a specific issue?No, this course is for any parent who wants and needs to overcome stress, anxiety and overwhelm, and to reconnect to their own intuition and innate parent-wisdom. It is for parents who want to better tune in to their child and to build their own confidence in their intuitive capacities as a parent.
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What age group would these methods work for?While the visual design is aimed at parents of younger and pre-adolescent children, the information applies to all ages and stages of growth.
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How is this different from other parenting books or courses?Most other parenting courses are, in the words of many parents we have spoken to, ‘dry and academic’. Many also say they are too long .This is also our experience. While much of the content may have value, much is the opinion of either a young parent or the advice of an ‘expert’ with a specific school of thought. Many parenting courses also focus on the child and how to control or manage your child. Tuned-In Parenting does none of the above. Tuned-In Parenting is based on over 30 years of practical work with parents and children around the world as well as the latest neuroscience, and rather than give advice, aims to guide parents to parent from their most intuitive, self-managed (as in without stress) and values-aligned place. Created to honour parents’ busy schedules, and likelihood to be distracted or interrupted, the course is also designed with visuals and illustrations that are purposefully whimsical and reflect the child-centred day-to-day of most parents.
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I’m so busy, How much time will it take?As mentioned, the course is divided up into short modules and videos, each one taking no more than between seven and (max) twenty minutes. The tool or focus recommended to apply in between modules is also very short and will not typically take more than a few minutes. The whole course is developmentally designed, so once you ensure you do the modules in the right order, the positive impact will be felt within a very short time.
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I’m not sure I have that ‘innate’ parenting ability. Will this really work?You may not have the fully developed ability, but in our thirty years of doing this work, I and those I work with, have never met anyone who does not have the innate parenting capacities. This course is designed to help you address ‘what gets in the way’ of you developing and applying those capacities, and to develop them so that they impact your abilities, enhancing your parenting skills – and ultimately your relationship with your child.
Still wondering if this is for you?
This program is perfect for you if...
You're a professional, a leader, or a high-performer in your field
You thought you could balance career and kids, but it's pulling you apart
You're snapping, second-guessing, and running on empty in every area
You've tried books, routines, therapy... but nothing seems to help
You know something needs to change, but you don't know where to start
You want to feel more present—with your kids, your work, and in yourself
You’re craving more ease, patience, and clarity in your day-to-day
You want to feel like you again—not the roles you play for everyone else
You're ready to put in the work and go inwards... to stop looking for answers 'out there', and start tuning in to your own wisdom instead
You're ready to rediscover the leader buried under the stress, overwhelm, and resentment... and let her back out.
